Today: The living trinity is to know the truth, to practice the truth, and to sacrifice for the truth” Yogi Bhajan

“The living trinity is to know the truth, to practice the truth, and to sacrifice for the truth; and if it means death, you are willing to die. We call it the trinity of attitude, and the word samadhi means attitude.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: LA779 – 19930916 – Kriya to Create a Miracle for Yourself

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Today: – ”Remember that you are not the doer.  While you cannot change what will happen, you can have influence.  Remembering why you do anything at all will breathe new life into the moment, inspiring you to act boldly.” – a reading from the I Ching

Remember that you are not the doer.  While you cannot change what will happen, you can have influence.  Remembering why you do anything at all will breathe new life into the moment, inspiring you to act boldly.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: NM091 – 19921110 – Self Emboldenment, Engagement, Vision

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 36 – If you want to shrink something, you must first allow it to expand

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47 – Forty-Seven  K’un / Exhaustion

A Dead Sea, its Waters spent eons ago, more deadly than the desert surrounding it:
The Superior Person will stake his life and fortune on what he deeply believes.

Triumph belongs to those who endure.
Trial and tribulation can hone exceptional character to a razor edge that slices deftly through every challenge.
Action prevails where words will fail.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

This is the realm of the Shaman.
You have exhausted every alternative, spent yourself completely, taxed body and mind beyond your former limits.
Survival and salvation lie beyond your reach now.
Only transcendence to a new existence — a higher plane of being — will see you through.
The Old You is just a dry husk.
You can’t return to it.
Metamorphosis is the only grace offered.
You can only return to your homeland as a New You.

Nine in the fifth place means:

Though his nose and feet will surely be cut off, still he must confront the warlord.
He calmly accepts his fate, and offers prayer and sacrifice.

His nose and feet are cut off.
Oppression at the hands of the man with the purple knee bands.
Joy comes softly.
It furthers one to make offerings and libations.

Emperor Qianlong

Emperor Qianlong (r. 1736 – 1795)

An individual who has the good of mankind at heart is oppressed from above and below (this is the meaning of the cutting off of nose and feet). He finds no help among the people whose duty it would be to aid in the work of rescue (ministers wore purple knee bands). But little by little, things take a turn for the better. Until that time, he should turn to God, firm in his inner composure, and pray and offer sacrifice for the general well-being.
16 – Sixteen  Yü / Enthusiasm

Thunder comes resounding out of the Earth:
Similar thunder roars up from the masses when the Superior Person strikes a chord in their hearts.

Whip up enthusiasm, rally your forces, and move boldly forward.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

There is a rhythmic force, a world music, that lives deep in the Unconscious of each of us.
It’s a primitive drumbeat, a shaking rattle, a tribal chant that invokes the primal self to rise up and join the dance.
This is the enthusiasm that is generated now.
Not rhetorical persuasion, not a play on the emotions, but a charismatic, irresistible Call of the Wild.
Confucius said that the person who could comprehend this could ‘rule the world as though it were spinning in his hand.’
This is a time for instinct, not intellect — the Thunder from the Beneath.

Today: The first act of surrendering to God is to live as He has made you.” Yogi Bhajan

“The first act of surrendering to God is to live as He has made you. The second act of surrendering to God is to maintain what hair God has given you on the crown of your head. The third act of sacrifice is to meditate on the five primal sounds in the morning and praise the Lord before the sun rises.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation:  TCH36-1-A00713 – Pain and Ecstasy – Triangle of Knowledge

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Today: – ”Remember that the existence of any community or family comes from the needs of its members to come together in order to pool resources for the group’s sustenance.  ” – a reading from the I Ching

Remember that the existence of any community or family comes from the needs of its members to come together in order to pool resources for the group’s sustenance.  Once that purpose becomes corrupted as exploitive or hostile, or self-serving, leadership must be replaced and the focus redirected towards the general welfare.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: LA847-19950816-Unity-Your Magnetic Field of the Total Self Will Become One

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 35 – She who is centered in the Tao can go where she wishes, without danger.

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13 – Thirteen  T’ung Jên / Social Mechanism

Heaven reflects the Flame of clarity:
The Superior Person analyzes the various levels and working parts of the social structure, and uses them to advantage.

Success if you keep to your course.
You may cross to the far shore.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

This is a matter of Positioning — not only yourself, but others as well.
There are niches to be filled, potentials to be realized, right livelihoods to be found.
You are not building a new organization, but shoring up an existing infrastructure.
It’s worth the effort, because it will provide union, community, and an ironclad alliance.

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yang above: Ch’ien / The Creative, Heaven
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yin below: Li / The Clinging, Flame
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The image of the upper trigram Ch’ien is heaven, and that of the lower, Li, is flame. It is the nature of fire to flame up to heaven. This gives the idea of fellowship. It is the second line that, by virtue of its central character, unites the five strong lines around it. This hexagram forms a complement to Shih, THE ARMY (7). In the latter, danger is within and obedience without – the character of a warlike army, which, in order to hold together, needs one strong man among the many who are weak. Here, clarity is within and strength without – the character of a peaceful union of men, which, in order to hold together, needs one yielding nature among many firm persons.

THE JUDGEMENT

FELLOWSHIP WITH MEN in the open.
Success.
It furthers one to cross the great water.
The perseverance of the superior man furthers.

True fellowship among men must be based on a concern that is universal. It is not the private interests of the individual that create lasting fellowship among men, but rather the goals of humanity. That is why it is said that fellowship with men in the open succeeds. If unity of this kind prevails, even difficult and dangerous tasks, such as crossing the great water, can be accomplished. But in order to bring about this sort of fellowship, a persevering and enlightened leader is needed – a man with clear, convincing, and inspiring aims and the strength to carry them out. (The inner trigram means clarity; the outer, strength.)

Hot air balloon

THE IMAGE

Heaven together with fire:
The image of FELLOWSHIP WITH MEN.
Thus the superior man organises the clans
And makes distinctions between things.

Heaven has the same direction of movement as fire, yet it is different from fire. Just as the luminaries in the sky serve for the systematic division and arrangement of time, so human society and all things that really belong together must be organically arranged. Fellowship should not be a mere mingling of individuals or of things – that would be chaos, not fellowship. If fellowship is to lead to order, there must be organisation within diversity.

Today: “The soul is the contact unit of the inflow and outlet of infinity.” Yogi Bhajan

“The soul is the contact unit of the inflow and outlet of infinity. Some say the soul is in the heart, some say the soul is in the solar plexus, some say it is in the brain. But do you know where the soul is? It is the circumvent force around the body, which mystics call the arc of life. Aura is the outer projection and arc is the inner projection. The arc is the point of contact between the astral body and the gross body.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: LA869 960410 – Expand the Arcline

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Today: – ”Do not attempt to sort out everything all at once.  The subtlest complexities lie beyond your grasp.  Something will always be left out.  Focus first on details that you can understand and relate with.  Then, include more.  Proceed stepwise.” – a reading from the I Ching

Do not attempt to sort out everything all at once.  The subtlest complexities lie beyond your grasp.  Something will always be left out.  Focus first on details that you can understand and relate with.  Then, include more.  Proceed stepwise.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: NM0337-Bujung Kriya – For Wisdom and Understanding

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 34 – The great Tao flows everywhere

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25 – Twenty-Five  Wu Wang / Remaining Blameless

Thunder rolls beneath Heaven, as is its nature and place:
Sage rulers aligned themselves with the changing seasons, nurturing and guiding their subjects to do the same.

Exceptional Progress if you are mindful to keep out of the way of the natural Flow.
It would be a fatal error to try to alter its course.
This is a time of Being, not Doing.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

This is thoroughly a matter of the heart.
If everything you attempt, no matter how carefully planned, ends in disarray, then examine your motives.
They are the cause of your predicament.
It isn’t that your motives aren’t pure — even the best intentions will fail under these circumstances.
What stymies you in this situation is that you have a motive at all.
Free yourself of all expectations, release any tenuous grip you may have, and roll with it.
This is totally out of your control.
There are higher powers and more elements affecting the outcome of this situation than you can imagine.
Get out of their way.

Nine at the top means:
Innocent action brings misfortune.
Nothing furthers.

Any action, however innocent, will bring misfortune.
Stand fast.

Waiting

When, in a given situation, the time is not ripe for further progress, the best thing to do is to wait quietly, without ulterior designs. If one acts thoughtlessly and tries to push ahead in opposition to fate, success will not be achieved.
3 – Three  Chun / Difficulty at the Beginning

Thunder from the Deep:
The Superior Person carefully weaves order out of confusion.

Supreme Success if you keep to your course.
Carefully consider the first move.
Seek help.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

New ventures always pack along their inherent chaos.
Though this is an annoyance at best, and can even imperil or downright doom an endeavor, it is also the friction needed to polish your project to jewel brilliance.
Learn from these early obstacles.

Today: “The job of the teacher is not to teach you the truth, because you know the truth. You know the truth.” Yogi Bhajan

“The job of the teacher is not to teach you the truth, because you know the truth. You know the truth. The job of the teacher is, out of his practical life and experience, to remind you to live the truth. That’s all it is. There is nothing which you do not know.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: Stimulate The Third Eye

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Today: – ”Be patient.  Things are on a proper course to completion.  Don’t rush it.” – a reading from the I Ching

Be patient.  Things are on a proper course to completion.  Don’t rush it.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: NM374 – 20001128 – Patience and Intuition

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 33 – Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.

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9 – Nine  Hsiao Ch’u / Gentle Restraint

Winds of change high in the Heavens:
Air currents carry the weather.
Dense clouds blow in from the West, but still no rain.
The Superior Person fine tunes the image he presents to the world.
Small successes.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

No matter what you do, the fruit of your labors never seems to ripen.
Your reward remains just out of reach.
Men have gone mad from such anticipation.
Don’t lose your balance lunging for the brass ring.
While the Fates continue to restrain you, go them one better and display a self-generated restraint and grace.
Look for the humor in the situation.

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yang above: Sun / The Gentle, Wind
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yang below: Ch’ien / The Creative, Heaven
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THIS HEXAGRAM MEANS the force of the small – the power of the shadowy – that restrains, tames, impedes. A weak line in the fourth place, that of the minister, holds the five strong lines in check. In the Image it is the wind blowing across the sky. The wind restrains the clouds, the rising breath of the Creative (1), and makes them grow dense, but as yet is not strong enough to turn them to rain. The hexagram presents a configuration of circumstances in which a strong element is temporarily held in leash by a weak element. It is only through gentleness that this can have a successful outcome.

THE JUDGEMENT

THE TAMING POWER OF THE SMALL
Has success.
Dense clouds, no rain from our western region.

This image refers to the state of affairs in China at the time when King Wên, who came originally from the west, was in the east at the court of the reigning tyrant Chou Hsin. The moment for action on a large scale hadn’t yet arrived. King Wen could only keep the tyrant somewhat in check by friendly persuasion. Hence the image of many clouds, promising moisture and blessing to the land, although as yet no rain falls. The situation is not unfavorable; there is a prospect of ultimate success, but there are still obstacles in the way, and we can merely take preparatory measures. Only through the small means of friendly persuasion can we exert any influence. The time has not yet come for sweeping measures. However, we may be able, to a limited extent, to act as a restraining and subduing influence. To carry out our purpose we need firm determination within and gentleness and adaptability in external relations.

THE IMAGE

The wind drives across heaven:
The image of THE TAMING POWER OF THE SMALL.
Thus the superior man
Refines the outward aspect of his nature.

 

Clouds

The wind can indeed drive the clouds together in the sky; yet, being nothing but air, without solid body, it does not produce great or lasting effects. So also an individual, in times when he can produce no great effect in the outer world, can do nothing except refine the expression of his nature in small ways.

Today: “Prayer is a control of the self in which you can talk to the Infinite.” Yogi Bhajan

“Prayer is a control of the self in which you can talk to the Infinite. In meditation God can talk to you and in prayer you can talk to God.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: LA827-19950307 – Third Eye

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Today: – ”Be aware of the influence you actions have on the family.  Strike a balance between apathy and permissiveness and overbearing control.” – a reading from the I Ching

Be aware of the influence you actions have on the family.  Strike a balance between apathy and permissiveness and overbearing control.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: LA041-780525- Control the Mind

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 32 – The Tao can’t be perceived. Smaller than an electron, it contains uncountable galaxies.

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37 – Thirty-Seven Chia Jên / Family Duties

Warming Air Currents rise and spread from the Hearthfire:
The Superior Person weighs his words carefully and is consistent in his behavior.

Be as faithful as a good wife.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:
One in this situation must be keenly aware of his influence on others.
Maintain a healthy respect for the ripple effect of your words and deeds.
To some you serve as a role model.
You can either help shape their world or tilt them into chaos.
Show temperance and consideration to all.
Nine in the third place means:

When tempers flare up in the family,
Too great severity brings remorse.
Good fortune nonetheless.
When woman and child dally and laugh
It leads in the end to humiliation.

Tempers are unleashed within the family.

The father carries a heavy burden of guilt.
If his wife or children taunt him, this will only perpetuate the cycle.

Woman and Child

‘Woman and Child’ – Jean Laurent Mosnier

In the family the proper mean between severity and indulgence ought to prevail. Too great severity toward one’s own flesh and blood leads to remorse. The wise thing is to build strong dikes within which complete freedom of movement is allowed each individual. But in doubtful instances too great severity, despite occasional mistakes, is preferable, because it preserves discipline in the family, whereas too great weakness leads to disgrace.
10 – Ten  Lü / Worrying the Tiger

Heaven shines down on the Marsh which reflects it back imperfectly:
Though the Superior Man carefully discriminates between high and low, and acts in accord with the flow of the Tao, there are still situations where a risk must be taken.

You tread upon the tail of the tiger.
Not perceiving you as a threat, the startled tiger does not bite.
Success.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

You have reached a perilous point in your journey.
This is a real gamble — not a maneuver, not a calculated risk.
The outcome is uncertain.
If it goes as you hope, you will gain — but if it turns against you it will cause serious injury, at least to your plans.
The best tack is extreme caution and a healthy respect for the danger involved.

Today: “You make habits and then habits make you.” Yogi Bhajan

“You make habits and then habits make you. If you have any habit, you will be a slave of that habit. This is the slavery of man. Liberation is the state beyond habits.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: LA589-890412-GoldenGrain

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Today: – ”An equilibrium has been reached.  Be wary of forces that will challenge its stability.” – a reading from the I Ching

An equilibrium has been reached.  Be wary of forces that will challenge its stability.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: LA741 – 921125 – Dance of Shiva

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 30 – Whoever relies on the Tao in governing men doesn’t try to force issues or defeat enemies by force of arms

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63 – Sixty-Three  Chi Chi / Aftermath

Boiling Water over open Flame, one might extinguish The other:
The Superior Person takes a 360 degree view of the situation and prepares for any contingency.

Success in small matters if you stay on course.
Early good fortune can end in disorder.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

Victory at the expense of another is a merciless taskmaster.
The precarious balance here is reflected in the lines of the hexagram: each of the yin lines rests upon a strong yang line — a seemingly perfect arrangement.
But the scales will be tipped with the change of any one line.
And there WILL be change.
Tireless vigilance and an answer to every challenge — that is the uneasy Seat of Power occupied by the conqueror.

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yang above: K’an / The Abysmal, Water
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yin below: Li / The Clinging, Fire
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This hexagram is the evolution of T’ai, PEACE (11). The transition from confusion to order is completed, and everything is in its proper place even in particulars. The strong lines are in the strong places, the weak lines in the weak places. This is a very favorable outlook, yet it gives reason for thought. For it is just when perfect equilibrium has been reached that any movement may cause order to revert to disorder. The one strong line that has moved to the top, thus effecting complete order in details, is followed by the other lines, each moving according to its nature, and thus suddenly there arises again the hexagram P’i, STANDSTILL (12).
Hence the present hexagram indicates the conditions of a time of climax, which necessitate the utmost caution.

THE JUDGEMENT

AFTER COMPLETION. Success in small matters.
Perseverance furthers.
At the beginning good fortune.
At the end disorder.

The transition from the old to the new time is already accomplished. In principle, everything stands systematised, and it is only in regard to details that success is still to be achieved. In respect to this, however, we must be careful to maintain the right attitude. Everything proceeds as if of its own accord, and this can all too easily tempt us to relax and let things take their course without troubling over details. Such indifference is the root of all evil. Symptoms of decay are bound to be the result. Here we have the rule indicating the usual course of history. But this rule is not an inescapable law. He who understands it is in position to avoid its effects by dint of unremitting perseverance and caution.

THE IMAGE

Water over fire: the image of the condition
In AFTER COMPLETION.
Thus the superior man
Takes thought of misfortune
And arms himself against it in advance.

When water in a kettle hangs over fire, the two elements stand in relation and thus generate energy (cf. the production of steam). But the resulting tension demands caution. If the water boils over, the fire is extinguished and its energy is lost. If the heat is too great, the water evaporates into the air. These elements here brought into relation and thus generating energy are by nature hostile to each other. Only the most extreme caution can prevent damage. In life too there are junctures when all forces are in balance and work in harmony, so that everything seems to be in the best of order. In such times only the sage recognizes the moments that bode danger and knows how to banish it by means of timely precautions.

Today: “A bus driver is the best example of a guru.” Yogi Bhajan

“A bus driver is the best example of a guru. He is totally involved in taking you to a destination, but he is uninvolved with you as well. His job is to pick you up and to deliver you.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: NM0347-20000502-Guru Kriya

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Today: – ”Do not seek an external remedy for what you cannot do anything about.  Circumstances will resolve themselves.” – a reading from the I Ching

Do not seek an external remedy for what you cannot do anything about.  Circumstances will resolve themselves.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: NM0337-Bujung Kriya – For Wisdom and Understanding

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 30 – Whoever relies on the Tao in governing men doesn’t try to force issues or defeat enemies by force of arms

The Magical Story of Mushkil Gusha

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25 – Twenty-Five  Wu Wang / Remaining Blameless

Thunder rolls beneath Heaven, as is its nature and place:
Sage rulers aligned themselves with the changing seasons, nurturing and guiding their subjects to do the same.

Exceptional Progress if you are mindful to keep out of the way of the natural Flow.
It would be a fatal error to try to alter its course.
This is a time of Being, not Doing.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

This is thoroughly a matter of the heart.
If everything you attempt, no matter how carefully planned, ends in disarray, then examine your motives.
They are the cause of your predicament.
It isn’t that your motives aren’t pure — even the best intentions will fail under these circumstances.
What stymies you in this situation is that you have a motive at all.
Free yourself of all expectations, release any tenuous grip you may have, and roll with it.
This is totally out of your control.
There are higher powers and more elements affecting the outcome of this situation than you can imagine.

Nine in the fifth place means:

No medicine will treat this malady.
Its cause was external, it will pass of itself.

Use no medicine in an illness
Incurred through no fault of your own.
It will pass of itself.

Chinese medicine

Chinese medicine

An unexpected evil may come accidentally from without. If it does not originate in one’s own nature or have a foothold there, one should not resort to external means to eradicate it, but should quietly let nature take its course. Then improvement will come of itself.
24 – Twenty-Four  Fu / Return

Thunder regenerates deep within Earth’s womb:
Sage rulers recognized that the end of Earth’s seasonal cycle was also the starting point of a new year and a time for dormancy.
They closed the passes at the Solstice to enforce a rest from commerce and activity.
The ruler himself did not travel.

You have passed this way before but you are not regressing.
This is progress, for the cycle now repeats itself, and this time you are aware that it truly is a cycle.
The return of old familiars is welcome.
You can be as sure of this cycle as you are that seven days bring the start of a new week.
Use this dormancy phase to plan which direction you will grow.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

You are about to experience a rebirth — about to be given another chance, a new lease on life.
You have persevered, gone the distance through an entire cycle — through the Spring of hope or new passion, through a Summer of growth and building, only to be sacrificed like the archetypal Harvest King at the Autumn reaping.
You lie dormant like seed beneath Winter snows now, healing and absorbing new energies in preparation for the new young Spring coming shortly to your life.

Today: “Understand that you have to understand yourself” Yogi Bhajan

“Understand that you have to understand yourself; and through the self-understanding you have to experience the truth, and that will make the mind steady.” Yogi Bhajan

Meditation: LA877-19960604 – Self Realization

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Today: – ”If you encounter limitations, adjust your approach to go around or through the obstructions.  Forcing the issue creates more resistance.” – a reading from the I Ching

If you encounter limitations, adjust your approach to go around or through the obstructions.  Forcing the issue creates more resistance.

Yogi Bhajan’s quote for today.

Meditation: LA571 890214 Let Go of Your Limitations

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Tao Te Ching – Verse 28 – Know the male, yet keep to the female

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9 – Nine  Hsiao Ch’u / Gentle Restraint

Winds of change high in the Heavens:
Air currents carry the weather.
Dense clouds blow in from the West, but still no rain.
The Superior Person fine tunes the image he presents to the world.

Small successes.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

No matter what you do, the fruit of your labors never seems to ripen.
Your reward remains just out of reach.
Men have gone mad from such anticipation.
Don’t lose your balance lunging for the brass ring.
While the Fates continue to restrain you, go them one better and display a self-generated restraint and grace.
Look for the humor in the situation.

Nine at the beginning [yang at bottom] means:

Return to the way.
How could there be blame in this?
Good fortune.

Enjoy the Time You Have

‘Enjoy the Time You Have’ – 王文華 (Wang Wen-Hua)

It lies in the nature of a strong man to press forward. In so doing he encounters obstructions. Therefore he returns to the way suited to his situation, where he is free to advance or to retreat. In the nature of things this will bring good fortune, for it is wise and reasonable not to try to obtain anything by force.

He turns back to his proper course.
No harm done.
In fact, good fortune comes of this return.

57 – Fifty-Seven  Sun / The Penetrating Wind

Wind follows upon wind, wandering the earth, penetrating gently but persistently:
The Superior Person expands his influence by reaffirming his decisions and carrying out his promises.

Small, persistent, focused effort brings success.
Seek advice from someone you respect.

SITUATION ANALYSIS:

Gentle persuasion is the key in this instance.
Though the words are soft, their speaker must be firm, calm and confident.
Gentle words are worthless if spoken with trepidation.
Wordless influence by example is also effective in this situation.
All persuasion should be almost unfelt, yet consistent and persistent.
Ask for feedback from someone you know to be an effective persuader.