Firmness and strength within your heart brings joy and happiness, while gentleness reveals itself in social intercourse. Your joy will find its way into the hearts of others.
Not striving to shop around for the source of your happiness, only recognize that picking and choosing is the source of suffering. Acquiescing to this truth will remove all inner conflict and allow innate joy to flow from your heart as kindness. This will serve as gentle inspiration for others to do the same. It is infectious.