“Kindness, compassion, and caring with love is real love. That doesn’t mean you can’t tell someone they’re wrong. If they are wrong, and you don’t tell them, then you are a coward. That is how you ruin your children. If you don’t confront, you can’t elevate. Sit down with mutual respect and caring. Then confront. If you don’t do this, you are a waste and aren’t even acting as human.” Yogi Bhajan
(via Ram Anand)
Do not engage directly obstacles that come from darkness. You’ll wear yourself out. Your understanding of them and how they relate with you are sufficient for you to develop the flexibility to go around and through them. Do not go to where the darkness lives. As long as you align with the light elements, your task will be much easier. With consistency and persistence this approach will meet with success.
Read the text from Richard Wilhelm's translation of the I Ching
“Penetration produces gradual and inconspicuous effects. It should be effected not by an act of violation but by influence that never lapses. Results of this kind are less striking to the eye than those won by surprise attack, but they are more enduring and more complete. If one would produce such effects, one must have a clearly defined goal, for only when the penetrating influence works always in the same direction can the object be attained. Small strength can achieve its purpose only by subordinating itself to an eminent man who’s capable of creating order. A man’s understanding is sufficiently penetrating. He follows up injurious influences into the most secret corners. But he no longer has the strength to combat them decisively. In this case any attempt to penetrate into the personal domain of darkness would only bring harm.
The pushing upward of the good elements encounters no obstruction and is therefore accompanied by great success. The pushing upward is made possible not by violence but by modesty and adaptability. Since the individual is borne along by the propitiousness of the time, he advances. He must go to see authoritative people. He need not be afraid to do this, because success is assured. But he must set to work, for activity (this is the meaning of “the south”) brings good fortune. “