Everyone has limitations in relating in the world. Optimally, we grow out of them by applying the technologies given to us by our teachers through the Guru. That is not the same as chasing prescriptions and formulas in the belief that something good will happen.
It’s easy to get caught up in our pursuits in the belief that a more extreme discipline will deliver us. If we are too severe in setting up restrictions for ourselves, we will not endure them. The more consistent such severity, the worse it is, for in the long run a reaction is unavoidable. In the same way, the tormented body will rebel against excessive asceticism.
It is more a matter of receiving in gratitude the grace that is given us. Fortunately, sometimes we are shown the vast infinity of our inner nature and it is only for us to turn that vision outwards. By resolving inner conflicts and being at peace with ourselves, we learn to gain insight into others. In effect, we enter another, see with the other’s eyes, listen with the other’s ears, feel with the other’s heart. We then return to our own center, with new perspective and understanding.
If we wish to pray for anything, we should pray for grace.