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37 – Thirty-Seven Chia Jên / Family Duties
Warming Air Currents rise and spread from the Hearthfire: The Superior Person weighs his words carefully and is consistent in his behavior.
Be as faithful as a good wife.
One in this situation must be keenly aware of his influence on others. Maintain a healthy respect for the ripple effect of your words and deeds. To some you serve as a role model. You can either help shape their world or tilt them into chaos. Show temperance and consideration to all.
Nine in the third place means:
When tempers flare up in the family, Too great severity brings remorse. Good fortune nonetheless. When woman and child dally and laugh It leads in the end to humiliation.
Tempers are unleashed within the family.
The father carries a heavy burden of guilt. If his wife or children taunt him, this will only perpetuate the cycle.
‘Woman and Child’ – Jean Laurent Mosnier
In the family the proper mean between severity and indulgence ought to prevail. Too great severity toward one’s own flesh and blood leads to remorse. The wise thing is to build strong dikes within which complete freedom of movement is allowed each individual. But in doubtful instances too great severity, despite occasional mistakes, is preferable, because it preserves discipline in the family, whereas too great weakness leads to disgrace.
10 – Ten Lü / Worrying the Tiger
Heaven shines down on the Marsh which reflects it back imperfectly: Though the Superior Man carefully discriminates between high and low, and acts in accord with the flow of the Tao, there are still situations where a risk must be taken.
You tread upon the tail of the tiger. Not perceiving you as a threat, the startled tiger does not bite. Success.
You have reached a perilous point in your journey. This is a real gamble — not a maneuver, not a calculated risk. The outcome is uncertain. If it goes as you hope, you will gain — but if it turns against you it will cause serious injury, at least to your plans. The best tack is extreme caution and a healthy respect for the danger involved.