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38 – Thirty-Eight K’uei / Estrangement
Fire distances itself from its nemesis, the Lake: No matter how large or diverse the group, the Superior Person remains uniquely himself.
Small accomplishments are possible.
You are working at cross-purposes with another. The distance between you is very wide. The gap can be closed, however, with no compromise of your integrity. You are not adversaries in this case — just two persons addressing individual needs. Ask yourself: are these needs mutually exclusive? Is there common ground here? Must there be one winner and one loser? Could you become partners in seeking a solution that would allow for two winners?
Nine in the second place means:
He meets his lord in a narrow alleyway. Though he gets in the way, no harm is done.
One meets his lord in a narrow street. No blame.
As a result of misunderstandings, it has become impossible for people who by nature belong together to meet in the correct way. This being so, an accidental meeting under informal circumstances may serve the purpose, provided there is an inner affinity between them.
35 – Thirty-Five Chin / Aspiration
The Sun shines down upon the Earth: Constantly honing and refining his brilliance, the Superior Person is a Godsend to his people. They repay his benevolence with a herd of horses, and he is granted audience three times in a single day.
This is a time of reward for good works. Those you have helped want to show their gratitude. Benefits come both from on high and from the humble you uplifted. Accept all gifts graciously, though the reward may not be what you truly need or hoped for. Some may bestow more than they can afford to give, but you must realize that they need to feel that they have repaid you.